Misjudged But Not Defined

Matthew 7: 1-2 “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.” Have you ever felt and experienced judgment from the people close to your heart or from your church or even your husband or boyfriend? Well, it’s easy to say “don’t judge” right? Words are easily spoken if you haven’t been through it yourself. God actually allowed this to happen to me, so that I know what it feels like to be judged. Although I was judged during my youth and in school, this time I was judged by Christian people. This truly hurt me deeply. Remember that I told you that everything I write is through inspiration and guidance from the Holy Spirit and of my own life experiences. If I haven’t been through something, how can I know what it feels like. My life experiences help me relate to other people and it also allows me to grow spiritually and emotionally. The same is true for you. You need to go through things that you don’t actually want to, to overcome your fears and to grow more spiritually and emotionally.
Okay, so during my youth I was constantly judged by my peers in school. As I have mentioned before and I forgave each of them. That was on a teenage level. But more recently, I experienced judgement on an adult level and the worst part of it all is that they were fellow Christians. They judged my character, my ministry and tried to rip every part of me into pieces. They even judged my relationship with God, telling me that I needed to consult others first before actually ministering to someone. They even went so far as to question what God impresses on my heart to share with others. Man, I actually felt so sad and spiritually heartbroken. Have you ever felt this way? Well, let me teach you something. There’s two ways you can handle it. Either you can accept these criticisms, believe in these negative words and give satan the right to bring fear into your life, or you can listen to God and stand on the truth He gave you and know who you are in Christ and cut off all those judgements in the Name of Jesus Christ!Yeah, the second option sounds much more awesome, hey? I’ll recommend option two.

You see, so many people that live for God still live in a world where they feel that they have the power to just say what they want and judge people and criticize whomever they want. Is this really the love of Christ? NO! Jesus is gentle. He will not judge you. He will help you gently, guide you thoroughly and He will speak softly. He will never break you down or send people to judge you. Jesus wants people to treat each other with gentleness and kindness. Yes, people can surely correct you, but there’s a difference between correction and judgement. God also wants you to return this treatment and treat others with love and respect as well. Titus 3:2 “…to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle and to show perfect courtesy towards all people.” This applies to you and the people around you. I have been judged in a harsh way and if you were judged by anyone or being gossiped about, you can have peace, because God will deal with anyone that offended you. Luke 17:2 “It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.”Never let anyone’s opinion distract you! Never allow any offences to rip you apart. Allow God to heal you from all the judgemental words that has broken you down and allow Him to reveal the truth about yourself to you. You will be surprised in how much worthiness and strength God sees in you and how much passion and love God has for you. He sees the best in you. He created you! He implanted your dreams and aspirations in your heart to reach the goals He wants you to achieve. Know who you are in Christ. Build your foundation on Him, so that when the judgements come, you will stand and cover yourself with the shield of faith and fight with the sword of truth. Don’t allow people to tell you who you are and how they think your relationship with God is. Be open for opinions and advice from people that approach you with love and kindness. As soon as words become offensive, judgmental or with the intention to break you down, fight the battle with your armour of God. Here God tells you exactly how to do this:

Ephesians 6:10-18 (NIV)

“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armour of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armour of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.

So, you need to be strong in the Lord and HIS POWER! Not your own. If anyone judges you, just rely and trust in God. Use the sword which is Gods Word to cut off every word that’s not of God! God will also stand with you! He will never leave you alone! He is the only King that leaves His throne to help His people. He loves you and you are walking an amazing journey with Him and that’s what counts. Don’t ever allow satan to rip you apart, because you are fearfully and wonderfully created. You have the power over satan. Stand firm, no matter how people mock or judge you. You are worthy and you never have to explain your worth to anyone. Just know it and live it!

Are You Allowing The World to Impact Your Worthiness?

Are You Allowing The World to Impact Your Worthiness?

Are you tired of showing your worthiness towards your husband, friends; family and everyone around you? Are you perhaps trying too hard to gain recognition from them? Or maybe you are a person who’s caught up in trying to be someone that you are not? Do you feel like you have lost your real personality in doing all this? Well, what if I tell you that in discovering the real you and your value before God, you will engage less in time wasting and brain draining activities of trying hard to please people around you. You are worthy before God because He created you for a reason. Your existence therefore was not expedited by or through the natural process of human nature, but was a result of a replanted purpose laid down for you, to perform a positive impact within the lives of people around you. As soon as you realize this, you are going to start appreciating the person that God created in you. Tiring habits such as pretending to be what you are not in order to win people’s hearts will fade away as you grow in God’s knowledge.

People that live for the world, live for its opinions too. That’s why so many women suffer from rejection, heartbreaks, low confidence and uncertainty. Yes, maybe you have gone through a bad divorce, lost a loved one or even lost everything you have ever worked for. Maybe it feels like you’re climbing a huge mountain, with no hope of you ever reaching its peak, or maybe you feel alone and unhappy with whom you are. Today I have great news! You were never alone and will never be alone; you are the apple of God’s eye. You are worthy and you deserve to have the best in living the life that God wants you to live! He doesn’t want you to live the life the world wants you to live, because the world is not your creator, but HE is. He knows you better than you know yourself. He has given you talents that no one else has. He has provided you with a passion for something so special that only you can do, but you need to know that you are worthy of achieving the best in all circumstances.

Don’t allow people around you to tell you who you are, because that’s how Satan works. He wants you to believe in the lies from people around you so that you fail to live your dream, passion and full calling. He wants you to think that you are not worthy of the best, but I am telling you now that you are! Did you know that there are mature women who still carry the pain of the names people once called them in school? Maybe you are one of them. I was one too, until the day I forgave them. I used to be bullied by other girls in High School, because of my kind heart and my worry of what other people thought of me. Satan knew this. Remember, you are not fighting against those around you, but against the spirit of the world. Ephesians 6:12 “For we are not fighting against flesh and blood enemies, but against the evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” (NLT) I only became aware of this when I started my great journey with God, of which I will tell you more in my future posts.

It’s very important for you to know that your fight is not with those people that bullied you in school. When I was bullied, I was made to believe that I was a failure and that took away my confidence. They told me that I was not beautiful, and that my eyes were so big and ugly. They made me to believe that I was fat and that I would never meet someone who would really love me. They mocked me about my eyes and today I know that my eyes are the most beautiful feature I have! They threw water and cold drinks at me during our break time. They bullied me in the bathrooms, threw things at me in class, and I just never understood why. I strongly began to feel that the fault rested with me. I thought I was not worthy of having friends. I felt rejected and heartbroken and above all, I felt like the ugliest girl ever! It was during those heart breaking days that I finally met God. Through my journey with God He showed me that those girls were mere vessels that the devil was using to bring me down.

Satan knew that my calling involved the healing of a lot of women, and so he used women to hurt me so that I would be afraid to deal with them. If I had allowed this fear to control me I would’ve never achieved what God wanted me to achieve today. God stepped in and He showed me how beautiful I am! How He created me out of His image and for His glory! I needed to forgive all those girls by their names, which wasn’t very easy, but I did it! You need to do it as well! You need to step up in faith and cancel all those terrible lies that the devil has planted into your mind and look at yourself in the mirror and say “I am beautiful. I am worthy of the best! I am the apple of God’s eye. I am the head and not the tail and I am not who people say I am.” You need to stand up and ‘throw away’ those lies that have been holding you back all these years. Words are powerful and can rule over your life if you give them a chance to. Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue can bring death or life, those who love to talk will reap the consequences” (NLT) Always cancel the negative words you and the people around you speak over your life.

This is very important, the negative words and actions of those around you must bare no impact on your feeling of worthiness. Don’t measure your worthiness based on what people say about you. This will prevent you from being the best that you are. Maybe you have given up on trying to be the best, all because someone else told you that you will never be the best. Well, what if I tell you that you can, walk this journey with God and begin to see yourself through His eyes and not the world’s eyes! You can be who God wants you to be and not who the world wants you to be! God wants you to be successful and happy in every area of your life. The sooner you believe that you are worthy of being the best, the sooner you will begin to achieve positive results in your everyday life.

Love Yourself

Love Yourself!

How beautiful do you really feel inside the body that’s been designed for you? Are you always complaining about something that’s not just how you would’ve liked it? “I wish my nose was smaller, I wish I was thinner, I wish my hair was longer, I wish my bum was just a bit lifted! Lol!” Does this sound familiar to you? Well, you’re not the only one! Thousands of women are unsatisfied with their bodies. That’s why the diet supplements industry as well as the cosmetic surgery industry are overflowing with billions of dollars. Allow me to be honest with you for a second. The truth is that even if you get cosmetic surgery, you might have more confidence for a while, but true satisfaction and appreciation for your body happens from within.

I have walked this journey. I know how it feels to count all the calories every day, to look in the mirror and wish I was thinner. I know how it feels to starve yourself and to never be happy with your weight. I always felt self-conscious. I know how it feels to be on diet pills and to do everything I can to lose weight. When God healed released me from that bondage, I realized wow! It’s all within! Yes, you need to eat healthy and exercise and look after your body, but in order to do that, you must love your body. Don’t lose weight and exercise because you hate your body. NO! Do it, because you love it!

I always felt self-conscious about my legs. No matter how skinny I was, my legs was just always muscle and big carves. I couldn’t wear shorts or take out a short dress. Until I found a love in cycling and wow! Now I am so thankful for my calves and legs! I love them! Why? Because I found that my legs have been designed strong for a reason. Why try to change it? Instead I have used my legs for to my advantage! Maybe you are unhappy with the shape of your body, but I want you to realize that you’ve been created with that shape for a reason. You are your most beautiful form, just as you are. So get your body shape chart on google and dress the way that fits your body shape. This will already change your look and boost your confidence!

Today I also want you to realize that no plastic surgeon can overwrite the beauty that God created. You are the most beautiful you in your original form! Listen what the Word says. Psalm 139:14 “Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvellous-how well I know it.” Now this is exactly how you should feel! I really want to encourage you today to leave all those diet pills and to pick up God’s Word. Start to get knowledge about how you were designed and what God thinks about you! Satan will do everything to break you down, because he knows as soon as you’re happy with yourself and filled with confidence…his kingdom is going to get harmed. You are born a warrior and with great purpose. You need to break free from these lies that break you down.

I’ve found victory! So can you!

I saw a beautiful woman one day. Not fat and not skinny, but filled with confidence. This blew me away! She attracted everyone around her. I sat a few tables away from her and her confidence changed my life. I realized that womanhood consist of so much more than weight! Your weight and body build does not determine your womanhood. You are woman. You are made emotional and you want to look good in order to feel good, but try to feel good first, then look good. When you feel good you will automatically eat more healthy, exercise and look after yourself.

Here’s a few guidelines that will help you to gain back your self-love:

•Start with a relationship with Christ.

•Spend time in the word of God. Start with Psalms

•Write down everything that bothers you about your body and give it to God.

•Ask God to change the way you see yourself and start to see yourself through His eyes.

•Declare His promises every day.

•Stand in front of the mirror and overwrite, all the negative words and thoughts you have about your body, with positive thoughts every day.

•Start seeing the beauty of your body as it is and compliment yourself every day! For example “Wow, I’ve got beautiful eyes!” “I am wonderfully made’ “Thank you Father for my amazing body, created in Your image”.

•Surround yourself with people who motivate you and build you up.

•Spend time with God every day. Get up earlier and pray to Him! Tell Him how you feel and listen to His Word . Follow His instructions.

•Believe in yourself and know that you are sculptured with fine detail. Made by the King of kings. Your creator.

Victory is near! Never ever give up! You can do this! You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Know Your Identity: Follow Your Purpose

You have been created with a purpose that only you can fulfil. Live it!

Have you ever wondered why you are here on earth? What’s your purpose? Maybe you even felt like you don’t have a purpose, which is totally crazy, wrong and dangerous! You might struggle to find your purpose, because no one ever believed in you. You were always told that you are going to get nowhere in life or you are going to turn out like this or that family member that didn’t achieve anything. You might just be totally confused, because you’re so used to please people who want you to do what they want you to do. There’s so many reasons why! So let me guide you on how to find your purpose as you read further.

The VERY IMPORTANT part in knowing your purpose is that you are passion driven and not performance driven. To know your purpose, you need to know yourself. You need to find your identity in Christ. I know that so many people say this all around the world, but how do you get your identity back and where did you lose it? See, you need to know where you’ve lost it to identify the situation, pull the root out and allow Jesus to heal you and fill you with the Holy Spirit. If this does not take place, hurt, pain and always continual searching for something to fill your heart will always be part of your life. You are made for so much more! There are so many reasons where your identity could’ve been hurt. See if you can relate to any of the following:

Your parents divorced: Suddenly you live in two different worlds! Two different homes and another man and woman that’s taking the place of your dad with your mom and your mom with your dad. So instead of two stable parents and one secure household, you have four parents and two homes. Some parents even divorced a few times. Well, either way, divorce plays a huge role in the child’s identity. I know, I have been through this too.

Broken relationships: So if this is part of your life, you are probably very familiar with all the effects it has on you, because you’re walking around the same mountain every time! Such as questioning your worth, your purpose, low self-esteem etc. Yes, I have been there too. So, I know exactly how you felt and still feeling feel after a heartbreak. You compromise and do everything to please the person you’re with.  So badly, that you’ve lost yourself! Your relationships just don’t work out! Be on the lookout for my new post soon that will make you realize why as well as helping you in this area.

Compromising: You compromise every part of yourself to make the other person happy! In a friendship, romantic relationship or family relationships. Rushing from the one place to the other! Buying great gifts! Being a people pleaser. Allow people to control you, change you, use you and sometimes even allowing verbal, emotional or physical abuse in relationships. Yet, it all comes back to your worth and identity.

You don’t know Jesus: You’ve heard people talking about Jesus, but you just think that He’s a prophet or dead or you just don’t think anything of Him. Well, I will never force this on anyone. Jesus is alive. He is real and He did die for you on the cross so that you can have a relationship with God and that all your sins can be forgiven. You need to have your own encounter with Jesus to realize this and I pray that He will reveal Himself in such an amazing way to you! An encounter like never before, with the One that died for you. Yes, He died for you, because you are for real and worthy to Him. He loves you with an unending love!

Don’t have a relationship with Jesus: You know Jesus, but never gave your heart to Him, or you’ve given your heart to Him but live for the world. So, this leaves you either in a religious routine from just going to church every Sunday and that’s it or you just don’t go to church at all.

Doubt: This is where you doubt in yourself. You allowed people’s opinions to control you. You think that if they doubt you, you will never make it. Doubt strips you from the authority that God has given you to fulfill your purpose. This leaves you with low-confidence that keeps you from doing what God wants you to do!

So, there’s so many reasons and these are just a few.  See if you can relate to any of these, so that the cause can be dealt with. Also be on the watch out for the post on how to get your identity back! If you have a broken identity, you struggle to find your passion! You have a passion in you that’s stronger than any feeling you’ve ever experienced. You just need to find it! Life may have hurt you and left you confused, broken and feeling worthless. Jesus is your healer and passion igniter! Give it all to Him! All your hurt and pain. Psalm 147:3 “He heals the broken-hearted and bandages their wounds.” Exchange your ashes for beauty.

You are created with a purpose that only you can fulfil. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you. To prosper you and not to harm you”. God has given you the talents and everything you need to fulfill it! You just need to discover it and use it with passion to do what God has called you to do! If you think you don’t have what it takes, then I want to remind you that you do have what it takes!  Just ask Jesus to show you and to lead you through the Holy Spirit and trust Him! Never doubt in God, for He will finish what He has started in you! Philippians 1:6 “And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.”

So get to know who you are in Christ and know that you can do something that no one else can do! You have been blessed with certain talents for a reason. Don’t give up on God, yourself or your life! Believe in yourself. Don’t wait for someone to believe in you. You and God are an awesome team and He will send the right people on your path! Just focus on Him and know that you are here for a reason. Your purpose is amazing! Allow Him to lit the bonfire passion that you are meant to have! You can do it! No matter how people doubt in you.. God doesn’t and that’s all that matters.

Philippians 4:13 “For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”

Steps on How to Forgive

These steps are really helpful and I believe that if you apply it, then you will experience the free life of joy, happiness and forgiveness.

  1. Write Down From Within Your Heart: Write down all the names of the people that you remember that has hurt you in any way you can possibly think of. Write down exactly what they did to you and why it hurt you. You will also realise that more and more names will pop up and that you will be writing down things that you thought never bothered you.
  2. Forgive Them by Their Names: You will not remember or know all the people’s names that did something bad to you. For instance: A car just drove right in front of you, causing you to break extremely fast and swing out. You are so mad and angry that you swear and scream on the guy, but he has probably reached his destination by the time you are still swearing and shouting on them. But, it never helps you to know that you have just forgiven the person that has done wrong to you if you just say “ok I forgive you or them”. You will definitely still think about that incident days, weeks, months or even years after it happened. You need to forgive them by their names or as the person you saw them. Here are two examples. One by name and one by no name.
    • Name: “Father, I come to you in the Name of Jesus. I forgive Michelle for the hurt she caused me through gossiping about my deepest secrets (or whatever situation).Father I ask that you will take away this situation and let me remember no more what she has done to me. Please set me free and let me live the life of abundance you have promised me.
    • No Name: Father I come to you in the Name of Jesus and I forgive the person that has driven right in front of me now, causing me to have anger against them. Please help me to react like you want me to and to stay calm this very moment.
  3. Forgive Quickly: Forgive as soon as the incident is over. For example: You and your husband are fighting and after a while the fight escalates into a much bigger fight and both of you shouted and called each other bad names and spoke thousands of negative words. Forgive him as soon as the fight is over and forgive yourself for the things you have said. Don’t wait and give satan the chance to awaken the anger within you and start another fight. Man, I can see satan whispering something into your mind that triggers you while he is at the side line eating popcorn and laughing at the show of fighting in front of him. Don’t open the door for satan to play with your mind. Forgive quickly and mean it. Your husband (or the person that you had a fight with) might still be angry at you or tell you that you cannot forget what happened so quickly. You can answer him and tell him or her that you can, because you have forgiven them and yourself and God expects us to move on.
  4. Forget! I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to forget as soon as you forgive. If you do not forget, then you have not forgiven. A very good example is when you in a fight with your friend or parents or any loved one and you bring all kinds of stuff that has happened in the past up, which you are adding fuel to the fire causing an explosion of feelings and actions. This leads to a domino effect. If you bring up old things than there will always be a fight. Forgive and forget about the situation completely and move on. Remember, all your fights are now in the past. This means that any fight from today will be as your first and so will be the next fight, because you have forgiven. Don’t bring up yesterdays, last weeks or even last year’s fights. They are in the past. Deal with the situation, forgive, forget and move on!
  5. Move On: Ok, so now you have forgiven the person that you held a grudge against for maybe seconds, days, weeks, months or even years! You have also forgotten what they have done to you as if it never happened right? Now you are invited to one of your friend’s birthday function and WALA! Here you walk right into that person. Now what? Let me explain: Now you need to greet them and talk to them and show them that you have forgiven them. You will get one of two reactions. A very friendly conversation, where they would even admit what they have done wrong and say sorry or a shock reaction where the other person just ignore you or still being rude to you. If this happens, then you need to stay strong and know that you are forgiven and you have forgiven them. When I forgave all those girls from school, I went from crying in the mall to walking up to them and greet them. They couldn’t look me in my eyes. They were so uneasy and shocked. Now God is working through me with such amazing women out there like you! I moved on. Although you walk into him or her again, never look back or be scared. If they are still rude to you the walk away, forgive, forget and move on!

Now, take the first step and forgive! Be proud of whom you are and let go of all the burdens. God want you to be free. Matthew 11:28-30 “Come to Me all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you. Let Me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. My yoke is easy to bear and light.” In this verse God tells you that he doesn’t want you to carry any burdens! There are so many and unforgiveness is one of them. He is your Father and He doesn’t just want the best for you, He gives the best for you! So be strong and forgive. Walk the path of abundance with God and not with the world. Give over to God and He w`ill take control.

Find Your Value

Do you know that your worthiness is not determined by what people say or think about you? It is therefore pointless for you to change your personality, with the intention of making yourself worthy. God says in Romans 8:51 “I am accepted and loved by God. If God is for me, who can be against me?” God has already accepted you, He loves you the way you are and no one can change that. Trying hard to please people will only lead to more complications and stress. Live a free life and just remember that you are worthy in God’s eyes. Changing yourself to please other people is like trying to restructure a pair of ‘Prada heels’ by cutting off its heels. This approach simply does not make sense.

You might have experienced rejection at some point in your life. For example: through parents that lacked confidence in you, friends that never appreciated your efforts and hard work, or most probably family that was never there in your times of need. Perhaps your boyfriend or spouse cheated on you. Perhaps you were bullied in school and that left you with a low self-esteem. Remember that the above mentioned are the seeds of satan to make you feel rejected. Your negative reaction towards these experiences produces bad fruits of rejection. Do not allow the devil to use your past experiences in shaping your present or your future.

REMEMBER: SEEDS=ROOTS=PLANTS=FRUIT=REACTION

If that seed of rejection that satan planted in you grows, it will develop into a bad root, which will then lead to the production of bad fruits. Do not allow satan to plant such seeds in your life. Ask God to create a new and positive spirit in you. Satan’s seed of rejection will only lead to more confusion, hate, a low self-esteem and frustrations. Go ahead and live the life that God wants you to live. Wear that dress that you like most without fear of what people will say.

Satan knows your weak points. He knows how you will react towards certain situations and experiences in your life. So he will continuously temper with your weak points if you allow him to. The devil might even use someone you know to poke at those weak points so that you react negatively; be wise and watch out for this. I was once a victim of this trick. Satan knew how much I disliked people who gossiped about my life and he knew how much it used to get me angry. In most cases I would stop talking to those people for weeks or even months. The day I allowed God to remove that seed of rejection that the devil had planted in me, is the day I took a different approach towards such situations. God gave me the courage to approach these people with a positive attitude and to love them as if nothing had happened. Allow God to heal you from the root of negativity that satan planted in you.

Do not change yourself to please people around you or for you to feel accepted! You can change your bad habits if you have any, but don’t change your who you are. God created you in your own special way! Live your life according to God’s will and you will have a peace of mind. Enjoy being you! God will tell you what you need to change and He will give you the right ‘tools’ to do so. God’s change is positive and not negative. Focus on what God says about you and not what people say about you.

Allow the Power of Forgiveness to Set you free

Do you want to live a free life? Free from guilt, hate, bitterness and blame? Do you want to wake up and smile again without an awful feeling of heaviness in you? Or do you want to face the person that hurt you so much without any feeling of fear or hate? Well, what if I tell you that you can! You can be set free right now! God is gracious and almighty, He can set you free instantly! He loves you and he is calling upon you to forgive! God wants you to live a burden free life, one that will fill you up with unlimited joy and laughter. You are reading this post for a reason. There is nothing that you are doing, did or planning to do that will surprise him. He is your Father and He keeps His eyes on you every time! Unlike other gods of this world, that would probably seek to punish you for every wrong you do, God almighty wants the best for you and not punishment through ‘HELL FIRE’ He is loving, forgiving, patient and will do everything for you to love Him back. He will forgive you, no matter what you have done or how much it bothers you. Isaiah 55:7 “_Yes, turn to God, for He will forgive generously”. This means that nothing is too big for God to handle; he will forgive you as soon as you ask Him to.

Did you know that you will be creating your own burden if you ask God to forgive you, while you as an individual fail to do the same towards those that wrong you? Yes, it’s true. Let me explain. If your best friend gossips about you and tells people about your secrets that you have only shared with her; secrets that cause people to laugh at you and most of all reject you; an anticipated reaction will be that of untamed anger towards her, and you may also vouch to never talk to her again. Now a week later the same friend comes and knocks at your door, begging you to forgive her for the pain she caused you. You temporarily agree to this, yet knowing that you still have a feeling of hatred towards her, a feeling that is known as ‘GRUDGE’. Such a feeling clearly shows that you have not forgiven her in the manner that God would have loved you to forgive her. Mark 17: 4 “Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and ask for forgiveness, you must forgive”. This means that every time a person says ‘sorry’ to you, you must not turn away and say, “It’s the second time today and you keep on doing it”. FORGIVE THEM!

May be you have done something wrong and you feel bad about it, you carry the feeling of guilt with you every second and everywhere you go. You have asked God to forgive you, but God is saying He can only forgive you if you forgive others. Luke 6:37 “Forgive others and you will be forgiven”. This means that you need to forgive and forget, off load the burden of that grudge you have against the person that hurt you. God will quickly forgive you and he will forget about all your wrong doing. So, do the same to those people that have gossiped about you, spreading false stories about you. As soon as you forgive others, you will then start to live a much better life, a life filled with joy and happiness! If you choose to live with an unforgiving heart, then you might as well walk every day with a hundred kilogram rock on your shoulders. This will not only make you the most miserable person, but it will also drown your emotions and destroy your physical health. You will be left tired, broken and physically sick. Not forgiving does exactly the same.

In my previous post, I explained how much I suffered both physically and emotionally from bullying classmates. It was so bad that every time I walked past one of those girls in the mall, I would cry in fear of further embarrassment. God then took me to the next level and told me that I needed to forgive them one by one, by their names. This wasn’t easy, but I did. I forgave them by their names and what they did to me. WOW! This was the best feeling ever! All my anger towards them disappeared and I felt like a freed prisoner. One of the questions I asked myself was “what if they do it again to someone else?”. My unsaved heart then longed to see them suffer the same experiences they put me through, but God assured me that he was in control and that he would sort them out for me. God loves you so much, he says in His word that it’s better for someone to hang a rock around his neck and jump in the sea, than to mess with God’s children! Woo! Isn’t this great? God is a God of love, but He will sort out the ones that are doing harm to you, because of His great love for you. Luke 17:2 “It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck, than to offend one of His children” (KJV)

Now you can have peace and know that God is in control. You were never alone. God was there when those girls mocked you in school. He was there while your boyfriend or husband cheated on you. He was there when your best friend spread your deepest secrets and much more. Let me tell you something, you might not have been present when those people gossiped about you, or tarnished your name behind your back; but God was. God was right there and that’s how you found out. If you found out through photos, calls, messages or even mails, God told you. He made sure that you know the truth. His truth was delivered in a way that you understood, leaving you with no reason to doubt. So, let go of all your rocks and the burden of an unforgiving heart, experience the free life that God wants you to live!

Now that you know the true meaning of forgiveness and how important it is, you will most probably remain with the following questions in your heart:

“How do I forgive and how do I know that I have forgiven them completely?

“How do I know that God has forgiven me from all my sins?”

“How do I forget the hurt that someone caused me after I have forgiven them?”

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Discover the Truth of Your Worthiness

Are You Allowing The World to Impact Your Worthiness?

Are you tired of showing your worthiness towards your husband, friends; family and everyone around you? Are you perhaps trying too hard to gain recognition from them? Or maybe you are a person whose caught up in trying to be someone that you are not? Do you feel like you have lost your real personality in doing all this? Well, what if I tell you that in discovering the real you and your value before God, you will engage less in time wasting and brain draining activities of trying hard to please people around you. You are worthy before God because He created you for a reason. Your existence therefore was not expedited by or through the natural process of human nature, but was a result of a preplanned purpose laid down for you, to perform a positive impact within the lives of people around you. As soon as you realize this, you are going to start appreciating the person that God created in you. Tiring habits such as pretending to be what you are not in order to win people’s hearts will fade away as you grow in God’s knowledge.

People that live for the world, live for its opinions too. That’s why so many women suffer from rejection, heartbreaks, low confidence and uncertainty. Yes, maybe you have gone through a bad divorce, lost a loved one or even lost everything you have ever worked for. Maybe it feels like you’re climbing a huge mountain, with no hope of you ever reaching its peak, or maybe you feel alone and unhappy with whom you are. Today I have great news! You were never alone and will never be alone; you are the apple of God’s eye. You are worthy and you deserve to have the best in living the life that God wants you to live! He doesn’t want you to live the life the world wants you to live, because the world is not your creator, but HE is. He knows you more than you know yourself. He has given you talents that no one else has. He has provided you with a passion for something so special that only you can do, but you need to know that you are worthy of achieving the best in all circumstances.

Don’t allow people around you to tell you who you are, because that’s how Satan works. He wants you to believe in the lies from people around you so that you fail to live your dream, passion and full calling. He wants you to think that you are not worthy of the best, but I am telling you now that you are! Did you know that there are mature women who still carry the pain of the names people once called them in school? Maybe you are one of them. I was one too, until the day I forgave them. I used to be bullied by other girls in High School, because of my kind heart and my worry of what other people thought of me. Satan knew this. Remember, you are not fighting against those around you, but against the spirit of the world. Ephesians 6:12 “For we are not fighting against flesh and blood enemies, but against the evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” (NLT) I only became aware of this when I started my great journey with God, of which I will tell you more in my future posts.

It’s very important for you to know that your fight is not with those people that bullied you in school. When I was bullied, I was made to believe that i was a failure and that took away my confidence. They told me that I was not beautiful, and that my eyes were so big and ugly. They made me to believe that I was fat and that I would never meet someone who would really love me. Yet vis-a-vis , my eyes are the most beautiful feature I have on me! They threw water and cold drinks at me during our break time. They bullied me in the bathrooms, threw things at me in class, and I just never understood why. I strongly began to feel that the fault rested with me. I thought I was not worthy of having friends. I felt rejected and heartbroken and above all, I felt like the ugliest girl ever! It was during those heart breaking days that I finally met God. Through my journey with God He showed me that those girls were mere vessels that the devil was using to bring me down.

Satan knew that my calling involved the healing of a lot of women, and so he used women to hurt me so that I would be afraid to deal with them. If I had allowed this fear to control me I would’ve never achieved what God wanted me to achieve today. God stepped in and He showed me how beautiful I am! How He created me out of His image and for His glory! I needed to forgive all those girls by their names, which wasn’t very easy, but I did it! You need to do it as well! You need to step up in faith and cancel all those terrible lies that the devil has planted into your mind and look at yourself in the mirror and say “I am beautiful. I am worthy of the best! I am the apple of God’s eye. I am the head and not the tail and I am not who people say I am.” You need to stand up and ‘throw away’ those lies that have been holding you back all these years. Words are powerful and can rule over your life if you give them a chance to. Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue can bring death or life, those who love to talk will reap the consequences” (NLT) Always cancel the negative words you and the people around you speak over your life.

This is very important, the negative words and actions of those around you must bare no impact on your feeling of worthiness. Don’t measure your worthiness basing on what people say about you. This will prevent you from being the best that you are. Maybe you have given up on trying to the best, all because someone else told you that you will never be the best. Well, what if I tell you that you can, walk this journey with God and begin to see yourself through His eyes and not the world’s eyes! You can be who God wants you to be and not who the world wants you to be! God wants you to be successful and happy in every area of your life. The sooner you believe that you are worthy of being the best, the sooner you will begin to achieve positive results in your everyday life.

Living the Best of You from the Inside Out

Do you only want to look better or actually feel better? You might be saying “I want to be both”. You can, if you follow the principles correctly. Many people get the recipe wrong. They want to first look good on the outside, and then after receiving a few comments and compliments, they then find it courteous to fix their inner broken image. This however is a fine recipe towards an inescapable disaster. This is why so many women post photos of their bodies in bikinis and lingerie. They feel broken inside, and so they tirelessly seek attention from different men, to fill in the creaks of their broken inner image. This is so sad and it’s sadder that most men don’t see this. They just think “wow she is hot!” They don’t think “wow this is scary, she’s broken and she needs healing”.

It’s the same when you build a house. You need to be sure that the foundation is perfect, the walls are strong; the wires are correctly connected, together with many other requirements before thinking of making the house beautiful. You are the house! Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit! So why would prefer to fix the outside view, if the inside is still broken? You need to allow God to come and heal you from the inside, to your outside, otherwise your walls will break and your house will crumble. Are you one of these houses that have cracks inside, that hunger for effectiveness, growing relationships and self-confidence?

Well, you are definitely at the right place! Let me name a few of these problems that no ‘quick fix’ will heal or take away:

  • You’ve set your career goals and you are doing very well in your planning. You are also working hard on achieving great success, but you realize that this is also costing your personal and family life. You do not have time for your lovely wife anymore, which is very dangerous in every marriage. You hardly spent time with your children and you have reached that magnitude whereby you do not know yourself anymore.
  • You’ve started a new diet for the tenth time, because you know that you’re unhealthy and over weighted. It pulls your self-confidence down as well as your health.
  • You’ve set your goals and you’re ready to start. You’re doing awesome for only two weeks and after that you just quit! You struggle to keep promises that you make to yourself.
  • You’ve been doing courses to try and understand your employees and how to treat them right, but you still don’t feel any respect or loyalty from them. You feel like you need to spoon-feed them. If you’re not there they don’t work. They are not reliable and responsible enough.
  • You’re having trouble with your teenage children. They’re using drugs and they are rebellious. They just never listen!
  • Your schedule is so full. There’s just too much to do and you continuously feel under pressure. You’ve done time management courses over and over, but you still feel that you’re not living a happy and prosperous life.
  • Your children are lazy and have no ambition to work. You’re trying to set an example and to teach them the value of work, but you can’t get them to do anything! In fact, if they do it, they complain the entire time. You find it peaceful to just do it yourself.
  • You are so busy, but it just feels like you are doing nothing. You really want to make an impact on the world and the people around you. You want to know the purpose of your life here on earth, but you just not sure if you’re actually living up to it. It feels like you are busy but you’re afraid that you’re not going to make any difference in the long run.
  • Your friends and certain relatives achieve great success. They’re happy with their jobs and their growth. They’re all getting married, and you just smile away and pretend that you are happy for them. The more you spend time with them the more upset you feel. Sometimes you feel like your heart rate has gone from 60bpm to 200 bmp.
  • You enjoy interacting with people, but you always wonder what they think of you and your ideas. You wonder if they really approve of you or not.
  • Your marriage has just gone cold. There is no more passion, surprises, smiles or even fights.

These are serious problems, like I said earlier on. Your house needs some work! Remember that your perception causes you to see things, and thus determining your feelings in specific moments. This then causes a certain reaction. Let me use a very simple example. Most women have issues with their weight right? Have you ever asked yourself why? Let me tell you why; because we live in a ‘Barbie society’. I just want you to pose and ask yourself “Why am I part of it?” You don’t need to be. I’m not saying you must be fat and unhealthy and live with a low self-esteem! Perhaps, you can actually answer me. How is Barbie’s self-esteem? SHE DOESN’T HAVE ONE!!! The only one thing she has is the self-esteem of a young girl that plays with her. I’ll give you a minute to think about that_ Barbie is a doll. A plastic one! One doll the world created, not God! You are more beautiful! You are ALIVE! You are REAL! You are ORIGINAL! There’s millions of the same Barbie’s, but there’s only one of you.

If there was ever a limited edition of Barbie, I believe most Moms would go ballistic in trying to get one for their daughters. It’s time for you to accept your inner being, so that God can heal you from inside to outside. It’s time to realize that you don’t have to be so skinny and fake like a doll, the world likes it but does God do? You are not of the world remember, so why would want live like it? If you think you are fat or ugly, then you are going to feel and act like an ugly person. You will always be a slave to the funny comments that people pass towards you. Start by allowing God into your life; let him fix your broken inner man. I believe you should first lose the bad spiritual ‘K gs’ like jealousy, bitterness, an unforgiving heart, heartaches and more before being able to lose your body weight. First things first: From Inside to outside!

People around you can build you or beak you down, you have to build a positive attitude and make the best out of your life. Remember there is only ‘one’ of you and you only live once; follow what God wants with your life and you will surely live a better life.

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2 Transformative Steps You Need to Know

The manner in which you approach life can either make you to become an exceptional person, or just an ordinary human being. The types of approach that people use in life can be subdivided into two categories namely, “cultural approach” or “principle approach”. The nature of a human being is made up of four dimensions: the mind, body, spirit and heart. Now the question is, which one of these do you use when making a decision, a reaction, or when building an idea? I believe the approach you choose determines your altitude.

The following are examples of approaches that one can choose from when dealing with the above dimensions:

Your Mind

Cultural: You would rather watch television, play games, visit your Facebook page, or interact on Whats App. You live an “entertain me” life.

Principle: Read books, a form of research that will help you and guide you in your general knowledge. You continually educate yourself. You are fully aware of the economic situation and technology changes.

Your Body

Cultural: You maintain your lifestyle as it is right now. You just treat your health problems with all kinds of pills and medications. For example, you are diabetic, but you keep on eating gluten and sugars that’s bad for you! You are busy killing yourself!

Principle: Prevent problems and diseases through changing your lifestyle for the better. If you live by the principle of the mind you will automatically change your mind set about your unhealthy lifestyle right now! You will start eating healthy, exercise, building yourself confidence and more!

Your Heart

Cultural: You use relationships to gain your personal selfish interests. You basically step on other people and use them to get where you want to be. You even fake your interests just to make sure the other person likes you. Wow! This sounds so bad, but it’s true! Many people use this awful strategy and if you are not aware of it, it may cost you your job, your marriage and even your friendship.

Principle: You listen attentively to what they say and you respect them. You serve others through your words, listening to them, respecting them and then serving them. Remember, if you serve others God will bless you! Why? Because serving brings joy to the broken hearted!

Your Spirit

Cultural: When you force yourself to live by a political or social philosophy, rejecting any kind of religion faith or worship.

Principle: When you realize that God is greater than any philosophy that man has created .Believing that you are here for a purpose, that you have a meaning! I personally believe and know that my source is God. He’s not only a source, but also my Abba, friend, healer, protector, comforter and my creator. God says in Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and hope,” See! You are here for a reason. You have a calling! If you live by this principle, you will not find satisfaction in being just an ordinary person, NO! God didn’t create you to be ordinary! He created you to have an IMPACT!

The cultural approach is worldly. It’s a “popular” approach, but remember you are not of this world. John 15:19 “If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.” WOW! This is such a powerful verse from the bible! So why would you want to be ordinary? Why would you choose the cultural approach if you were created to stand out? Are you afraid that people will turn against you, mock you, or gossip about you? WELL DON’T BE! Jeremiah 1:19 God says that “they will fight against you, but they will never overcome you.”

When people lie on their deathbeds just before dying, they do not wish for more time in their offices, nor do they wish to watch their TV’s and chatting on Whats App’s or Facebook! Instead they think about their wives, husbands, kids and family. They think about how they served them. For now it might seem normal for you to focus on other things besides your family, but later on in life you are going to realize how wrong you were! Families are living beings that LOVE YOU! Will you therefore give up your work or big project or even your bank account like the way you give up on them? NO! So, aren’t they more important than all those ‘dead’ things? You can have money and you can buy things, but you can never buy a heart that really loves you. Stick by the principles and live a balanced life!

Choose wisely between the “cultural approach” Or “principle approach”. Remember God is going to bless you with the right tools for this task; you just need to figure out on how to use them effectively. Let the Holy Spirit guide you. Let Him be your manual to each approach. Listen to Him and He will guide you wisely to achieve what God wants you to achieve.